By 30, you should have ...

I came across this on my world wide web browsing and , if you are approaching 30, or have had the exciting welcome into the ‘CLUB’..this is a good self assessment and a good time to reflect on all that you have overcome and experienced in your 20’s. I would love to see everyone else's own comments on these topics regarding your own experiences and opinions. Please copy and paste and send me your blog!


By 30, you should have ...
1. One old boyfriend you can imagine going back to and one who reminds you of how far you’ve come.
Well, this girl is a Mrs now, Love him and couldn’t imagine life with out him. But we’ve all had that one person in your past that just literally broke your heart and one that you said 'good riddance'- both of these relationships just helped make your next one better.

2. A decent piece of furniture not previously owned by anyone else in your family.
 
I ended up donating it to the salvation army when Wes and I resided in Taylorsville. It was a refurbished antique chair and ottoman..biggest regret ever! But I do have a an awesome bakers rack that was given to me by my best friend from the wedding. I know its going to follow me around till I am 90.

3. Something perfect to wear if the employer or man of your dreams wants to see you in an hour.
Yes I do! I don’t buy a lot of expensive pieces, but I have been shopping for the right ones I think, even if they are from Wet Seal, Target or Forever 21.

4. A purse, a suitcase, and an umbrella you’re not ashamed to be seen carrying.
Uhm, a suitcase and an umbrella- I will put that on the next Christmas list.

5. A youth you’re content to move beyond.
Finally, it hit me. Naturally aging and then trying to catch up mentally was a hard thing for me. Now at 32 I feel like I just really turned 30. My body though, is 32- definitely 32.

6. A past juicy enough that you’re looking forward to retelling it in your old age.
OH the stories!!

7. The realization that you are actually going to have an old age -- and some money set aside to help fund it.
Wes is working on that money thing for me hehe.

8. An email address, a voice mailbox, and a bank account -- all of which nobody has access to but you.
Yes- all the above.

9. A résumé that is not even the slightest bit padded.
I did update mine, however I was told it wasn’t streamlined enough..which completely offended me.

10. One friend who always makes you laugh and one who lets you cry.
This is where I feel I am the luckiest.

11. A set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill, and a black lace bra.
Not black one, but yes on lace. I had a set of tools way before I was married! I am the handy one in our relationship.


12. Something ridiculously expensive that you bought for yourself, just because you deserve it.
I bought a super expensive pair of jeans…and even though they fit me only every other year, they always get compliments and make me feel awesome…

13. The belief that you deserve it.
I held this belief in my late 20’s. I feel it brings a certain confidence and gets you through the tough times. People will eventually realize what you deserve, good or bad, depending on how you present yourself and how you set your expectations.

14. A skin-care regimen, an exercise routine, and a plan for dealing with those few other facets of life that don’t get better after 30.
Working ON IT! I go through phases, but nothing consistent. 

15. A solid start on a satisfying career, a satisfying relationship, and all those other facets of life that do get better.
Yes…it only can go up from here. My job now is such a good place, my marriage is amazing, im finally getting a handle on my finances, and continuing my education and starting a family is on the docket.

By 30, you should know ...
1. How to fall in love without losing yourself. 
 I  find it amazing that my husband allows me to be my goofy pre married self- some men are insecure with that and want control. Not mine- and that is why I will keep him.

2. How you feel about having kids.
I think everyone knows this by now about me.

3. How to quit a job, break up with a man, and confront a friend without ruining the friendship.
 I’ve kept my relationships with all three of these scenarios, for the most part.

4. When to try harder and when to walk away.  
Depending on the situation- I think some things are worth working harder for. 

5. How to kiss in a way that communicates perfectly what you would and wouldn’t like to happen next.
Got that down!

6. The names of the secretary of state, your great-grandmothers, and the best tailor in town.
I had to ask Wes on the secretary of state- Hilary Clinton. My great grandmothers not so much- my side never talked about names, my mom was an orphan too. The best tailor was my dad. I miss him.

7. How to live alone, even if you don’t like to.
It is liberating, and every girl needs this experience. You learn so much about what you want out of life. Having a doggy helps too, gives you something to take care of and look forward to after work. 

8. Where to go -- be it your best friend’s kitchen table or a yoga mat -- when your soul needs soothing.
Im not going to lie…my recliner, with a glass of red wine and a brownie. Talk about showing your age!

9. That you can’t change the length of your legs, the width of your hips, or the nature of your parents.
SO TRUE! Ugh you can’t even imagine the A-HA moment I had when I realized all of these. Im short, my hips are a 38  and my mom will always be my mom. 

10. That your childhood may not have been perfect, but it’s over.
AMEN

11. What you would and wouldn’t do for money or love.
I think the 20’s is the time to get these experiences for sure. I found out a lot about my limitations and how money and love can ruin your relationships, mold you into a person you are not, and hurt everyone around you.

12. That nobody gets away with smoking, drinking, doing drugs, or not flossing for very long.
HA HA! 

13. Who you can trust, who you can’t, and why you shouldn’t take it personally.
Still learning as I meet new people. 

14. Not to apologize for something that isn’t your fault.
Just leave this bolded and pass it on to everyone I know.

15. Why they say life begins at 30.
It really does, even when I turned 30 I felt a new enlightenment and definitely found my boundaries. Now a couple days into 32- I am excited to see what all life has to offer!

List excerpted from Glamour's "Thirty Things Every Woman Should Have and Should Know By The Time She's 30."