Avocados from Mexico: Millers go on Vacation

So let me tell you how we got to this resort. When we arrived to our original booked resort, called The Beloved Hotel. La Amada  We were greeted with champagne and cool towels. As we go to check in, they tell us that from the heavy rains, some of the rooms were damaged. They  wanted to move us to the resort called The Finest, but we had friends staying at the Excellence next door, so  I asked the Hotel Manager if we could stay there. So they let us. The nice part was they let us ride in a golf cart over, it was literally 3 minutes away, and we were greeted once again with champagne and cool towels. I was buzzed before I even got to say Gracias. So that is the story.

We said bye to Chuck, our flight attendant happened to be the coolest mom of one of our coolest friends, too!

 Im toasted on this flight too, cause i took my Dramamine late and then had alcohol hehe

 This little beach bag they put in our room meant quite a bit. they had upgraded us into an anniversary room in this area called "excellence club" so we ended up getting upgrades and discounts on our spa and  just royal treatment all week. They had areas marked "excellence club members only" and these fun little beach boys and cabana boys came out with towels and set up our loungers and gave us drinks and sunscreen. It was nice!

The beach areas marked for "club" members had these beach beds that were 10 feet away from water.

and all the beach boys offered to take pictures for us haha.

Seriously a dream!!

And if we weren't on the beach, they were pool areas marked for 'Club' members and then we'd get cabana boys like Julio here

setting up our loungers with comfy towels. and they would all say "you are on vacation, you don't lift a finger" Uhm...okay!

They had yummy drinks, of course the Pina Colada..I ended up my trip by drinking Mango tangos the last few days.

We had a couple days that we spent with our friends but it was mostly me and Wes, we had not taken a honeymoon after our wedding so it was a good chance to treat it as such.

but the times we did spend with friends were fun!

One of the best parts and my favorite memories is the food! they had such good food and different cuisines. 

I had ice cream almost everyday, and fish tacos for lunch

 One of my favorite places was this French Restaurant..it was pretty darn close to authentic, well it all had a mexi twist but it was really yummy!

and this tiny little butter pad dish. if you know me, I have this urge to always steal cute things from restaurants...its so crazy! its the only time i want to steal...you know like, at Chilis or Applebees back in the day they gave you a to go box, and your sauce was sitting in that ramekin...I would just drop that whole ramekin, sauce and all in my to go box. I'm sure I'm not the only one who did that. Just so you know, I did not steal this butter pad dish. 

 Sometimes We would order room service, and sometimes we showed up to our room from a day at the beach and there would be spreads like this just waiting for us, champagne and cheese plates!
SO SO Spoiled!!

And their guacamole...i still dream of their guac..something about that mexican avocado!

The Resort was so pretty, and the grounds were really well maintained and manicured. They had fun artistic modern elements everywhere. and iguanas...iguanas at every turn.

The water hammocks were fun!

thats the Mango Tango drink I mentioned.

 but the best were these swingy beds

and there was a beach wedding just yonder, in which the bride was just walking down the aisle by us, I didn't notice, so Wes thinks I got in the picture, but they said I wasn't haha.

I saw another wedding there too. 

It made my Wedding Planner heart pitter patter.

that's me learning some latin dance moves.

I miss you already, Cancun!

but it was nice to come home to our little Charberry!
one of the days , we were getting massages and I was laying with my face in the hole and was trying to relax, but then I started crying cause I was thinking about Charlotte! Ha ha, i got offered a tissue and i think the therapist was giving herself props cause she was releasing toxins from my body with her efflerauge.

We want to go again in a couple years, but really plan ahead and invite friends! hopefully we can all go together!

Who's the Narcissist??

The past 3 years I’ve been dealing with a person who unexpectedly decided to put me on the dislike column of their friendship list.  it's like that trendy term that was all over the internet over the summer called ghosting, but this wasn’t really that for me. Imagine hanging out with someone so often that people were starting to ask if you were related. Im comparing this to the likes of that liberty mutual commercial, the girl loved her car named brad, they’d been through everything together and then one day that friendship was ‘totalled’

the inquisitive person that I am, i did reach out and ask what it was that I did wrong. And I am realizing that maybe what i said, in my head was innocent, came out wrong and was taken personally. Though I apologized, I basically got the  “i don’t care what you have to say anymore” statement. Of course I was completely defensive , anyone who knows me knows my intent for the people I care about is never ill or harbors ulterior motives.

So its been a wave of emotions and interactions with this person. I was heart broken in the beginning, when you lose a friend, it's hard, but then you question if they were really the person you thought you knew, the kind of person you wanted to be friends with in the first place.. cause now, how can the person i adored turn out to be this different person who despises me?

I know there are many phases of friendship, but when do you finally let go? my olive branch has always been a christmas card, an invite to a party or lunch. but its been awkward. When I got married, not a word to me, when I had my baby- you thought it was like old times again with the “support”. I realized i had been to all of their child's milestone celebrations since then,  and no visits to ours. I started feeling that all of a sudden these cryptic posts and blatant celebrations with common friends were a jab at me. and why? how after so long, an apology and invitation to renew a friendship im still being punished for a statement i made? I finally reached my closure on this situation with this article

http://www.elephantjournal.com/2015/06/mirror-mirror-on-the-wall30-traits-of-a-narcissist/

I wasn’t even looking for this article, it just popped up on my screen on Facebook and to be honest, I wanted to see if I had those traits and all of a sudden, The person I couldn’t figure out was this person in the article. And its not meant to be a slight or an insult to this person, it's just all those actions and judgements i’ve been on the receiving end of, make sense. So now, do you know a narcissist in your life..they may not even know what they are doing or aware. they just don’t. and so, do you try to fix it, or do you just let out a sigh of relief and whisper a soft forgiveness. Sometimes people in relationships, no matter what kind get into a mode of “what the hell am I doing wrong” and it's actually about an unaware narcissist. Read the article if you are feeling like you were in the same boat as me..you will feel liberated, beyond!